Making enough money or doing enough things in life so you can then only relax and enjoy your time on your terms is a thought that has come across everyone’s mind atleast once. While this idea itself is tempting and appears to fill us with motivation to work hard as well, it is not something that can sustain you for long. Not only would your motivation waiver with time as such goals usually take a long time before manifesting themselves into reality, but you would also come to realize soon that this is not a very desirable outcome.
Yes, it is important to have financial freedom so that you would not have to worry about half of the things that have you up at night. However, it is even more important to keep yourself busy in life. No one can live their life without purpose and still manage to stay sane at the end. Having something to worry about gives your life a purpose albeit only a short term one. If your end-goal is to eliminate all such worries and you still wish to live a care-free life then you better have something very important to fill your time with. And this is not something like spending time with family or friends because as nice as they do sound, you do not really want to spend years doing the same thing daily over and over again without striving for any change. If it was possible for you to just relax after making enough money then billionaires would not be working 80 hours/week to just torment themselves even when they can have all of the things that they would ever want. It is because they realize that spending an aimless life is the same for everyone and it leads to nothing but you hating yourself. The answer which you can see from the life of any of the billionaires is simply to keep challenging yourself. If you keep setting up goals, and preferably difficult goals, for yourself to achieve in life then not only would you have a more successful life but most importantly, you would be content with yourself.
Making It Hard For Yourself
If you have ever felt such passiveness at any point in life and truly felt that it was okay to always continue in the same way for atleast a few months then you should already be familiar with the emptiness that such a feeling eventually creates inside of you. Yes, you can try to distract yourself by spending money on something that you liked, as you are now clearly at a stage where you could do that, but the longer you let this situation go, the more the emptiness inside you grows. The only way to break free from it is to flip the script and try going for something ambitious. Trying to pick up a new challenge and then devoting yourself to seeing it through the end just because you know you could can give you a completely new perspective that you didn’t knew you were missing in life. Since you chose to accept your state and then felt that it did not give you a fulfilling result, you should be able to go the complete opposite way.
When you are trying to set up a new goal for you, you should make it something that is still possible but at the same time seems too zealous as well. This would entice you to break free from your comfort zone and actually give a damn about this new goal. If it is something that would not improve your life drastically(even if the end-goal takes time), then you would never be able to convince yourself to make the sacrifices needed to achieve it. You would not be able to put in the hard work it requires as the end-goal would not convince you to change your lifestyle. So, you can end up being slowly dried out of happiness in life and see everything become purposeless around you. Working hard is the key to not only achieving your goal but also to break free from this cycle. In order to turn this situation, you absolutely do not need to acheive this goal at all costs. As long as you manage to put in the effort, you would come to this realization yourself about what it was that was needed to fill that void in your heart. It is not filled by expensive cars or laptops but it can be filled by staying true to yourself and go through the hardships again. The only difference now being the fact that these difficulties were intentionally chosen by you and they were not imposed on you by someone else or by your situation.
Conclusion
I know it sounded like I am telling you guys to leave a life of luxury and put yourself through the chopping blade again to do something which you currently do not feel a need for. But, if you even feel an inkling of this void opening in your heart then this is the best solution that I can offer you. It is to make life difficult for you again but only this time, you are setting up the terms.
If you do manage to contemplate what your purpose in this part of your life should be, then you should choose an ambitious goal that meets this criteria. Most people I can think of would decide that they can give a new purpose to their life by adding meaning to someone else’s life. This is not just a noble aspiration like you have heard a million times before in the past but rather something that is selfish and designed to help you break free from you chains of dullness. Yes, you are helping others but that does not mean you have to be self less while doing so. Tesla is an electric car that is making the environment better but that does not mean that they cannot make billions of dollars while doing so. It is okay to find balance between the two where you see fit. My advice would be to find a goal that is both beneficial to you and allows you to provide value to other people’s life as well instead of going on only one extreme. You can do as many selfless things you want in life but the message here is to find an enticing challenge that helps guide you out of your monotonous routine. Hope it makes sense and helps you out some time in life, Good Luck!
