How To Handle change in life
Change is anything that affects your normal rhythm in life to the point where either your entire routine or at least some part of your routine gets completely substituted by something else. It can be either good or bad depending on the impact the newly substituted part of your routine has on you. As much as you want something to always stay the same, it will always be prone to changes. If you try to hold on to things in order to keep them the way they are, know that you are playing a losing game and you can only delay the change that is eventually going to come.
Regardless of whether a change is good or bad, it is almost always a scary thing. The reason it is scary is because you are moving away from something that works or at least works in an expected way to something that will have unexpected outcomes. The uncertainty in future that this change will bring in your life is the cause of anxiety for you and many alike. What you should understand is that this fear and anxiety is normal and everyone goes through it in life in one way or another. Some people are just good at hiding their fears than others. No one knows what the future holds for them. All you can do is to make a choice that you deem to be the most reasonable at the time and don’t be scared of things you do not know yet. Eventually, everything will become clear to you so there is no need to falter.
Accept That it is happening
The sooner you realize that the change is indeed going to happen and that there is no other way around it, the sooner you will be able to move forward with your life. If you keep refusing to accept what is the obvious truth for everyone else around you then you will only be stalling for time by denying reality. Accept that the change is coming and accept how it will have an impact on you. That way, you will be better equipped to deal with the future problems that may arise beforehand, rather than being forced to accept them when they have already arrived. Once you have accepted the change in your life, you can be in a better control of the final outcome of this change in your life as well. That is because even if the change is not a good thing for everyone, the one who will be better prepared in advance will have a clear edge over the others. So, know when the change is happening and do not try to deny it just because it is easier for you at that particular moment.
Core Reason For The Change
Every change occurs because of something. Often times, you will confuse the reason for change to be something that is actually just an outcome of doing that change. For example, making a change to spend more money on your clothes from now on can be thought to be driven by the reason that you will look good. Though looking good is important and all, it is just a result of you making that change in the first place. What you need to identify is the actual reason why this change was needed and not something that will come as a result of it. To continue our example from above, the actual reason could be the fact that you have just decided to go on a lot of job interviews to get a high paying job but you lack the appropriate clothes to accompany that initiative.
Having clearly understood the core reason which derived you to make this change, you can more easily handle the effects of this change in your life. Whenever you feel like giving up on the change, you can just ask yourself about why you made the decision for this change in the first place. Has that core reason been now fulfilled or are you just going to give up on it because it got too hard?
Do not Complain About it
One thing I can say for sure is that it is not going to be easy for you to adjust with the change. That becomes even more evident as the scale of the change increases. However, no matter how hard it gets, you should not complain about it to others. Especially, to others that have gone through this change with you. The reason for that is simple, because you will not make it easier for yourself by complaining about it to others. You are only making it more likely for others to encourage you to give up on the change.
What you should be doing is to understand whether your core reason is still unfulfilled or not. If it has not yet been achieved, then are you really just going to give up on all the time you have spent so far on thinking about making this decision and all the effort you have applied on it afterwards without having anything to show for it? As long as your problems do not clearly justify you giving up on your core reason, you should stay quiet and work to fix your problems. Once the effects do start to cross this threshold, only then you should re-evaluate your core reason and make a decision for yourself.
Thinking Ahead
One of the most important things you should ask yourself whilst re-evaluating the core reason for change is the impact of giving up on this change for you. You should consider whether reverting back to the way things originally were would actually be as desirable as you are currently thinking. More often than not, you will find yourself wanting to improve on your original situation as well instead of just reverting to it and staying there. If that is truly the case, consider whether reverting this change is the best decision here or should you try to work towards making another change to develop your situation in a way you want it to grow.
