Realistically speaking, no one knows what the future holds for them. The best a person can do is to try to gauge from the previous experiences he has and then try to extrapolate them into his present situation so that he may atleast have some idea about what is coming. But that is not what most of us like to believe. Many of us actually think that we already know more than anyone else in the world. That is especially true when someone tries to give advice to them, because who can know them better than themselves? This is one of the things people do without actually realizing it. The consequence of acting a ‘know it all’ become apparent once you are met with the reality that some things in life will indeed never work out the way you had expected them to. Maybe it is a least likely scenario or maybe it is an outcome which you never thought was possible that actually comes into fruition. Not only does it crumbles your confidence in yourself but it also stops you from ever accepting any responsibility for the things that have transpired. On the other hand, if you truly believe that although you can have some idea about what is to come, you can never really be sure about it until it has actually happened(i.e. always leave a room for surprise) then you will continuously keep analysing the outcomes to better align your expectations accordingly. It will also help you in identifying the things that led to the event that was not what you expected because the ingredients you use will reflect the final dish that is served at the end.
The most important things that you learn from always leaving room for surprises are,
- Patience
- Optimism
Even if you already know what the other person is about to say, a person who is inclined to leave room for a surprise will still listen to what the other person is saying. At the end, it might be that some new information was provided to you that would have been missed had you prematurely stopped the person from speaking based on your initial assumption. On the other end, maybe everything that transpired was according to your expectations but even in that case, you still managed to make the other person feel heard and they will still think that you were a great listener. Also, you made sure that you did not miss out on anything. In this day and age where everyone values their time very dearly, most people would really just appreciate having someone that listens to them instead of cutting them off in the middle to steer the conversation in their direction. Even if you know a person is saying something that is incorrect, just listening to them would give you in understanding about why they are doing so. Maybe you can fix the root cause instead of just correcting the apparent side-effect.
In life, you are bound to come across situations where you will not get what you were wishing for or what you had thought was the best for you. It is true for not just you but for everyone. In such situations, you should always know that what you thought was the best thing for you might actually not be the most suitable for you at all. And that by not getting it, you might actually arrive at something that is on a whole different level from that previously best case scenario you had in your mind. This optimism can only be developed if you accept the fact that your understanding is not complete and that everything that happens to you is happening or a very specific reason. Maybe it is about getting straight A’s in all your subjects, maybe it is landing the job that you like or maybe getting admission to the university that you love. All of these things seem like the best option for you but that is only true for the current version of you. Regardless of whether that becomes your reality or not, you will keep growing in life and the best case scenarios for your life will always keep getting upgrading to the next level. So even though you might feel sad about not being able to get something that you really wanted, always leave a room for that upcoming surprise that you are already on you way to something much better and on a whole different level. I hope you get what you are wishing for but I also really want it to be the thing that will be the best for you in life as I think the latter is more important than the former. Good luck!
