Human beings are pretty good at survival and the raison d’être for it is our ability to adapt and grow accustomed to new situations rather quickly. Unfortunately, this can also have a negative effect on us as we grow dependent on superfluous things in life and give them more importance than they deserve. We become sad and frustrated whenever life takes a sharp turn and we are deprived of such luxuries that we had grown accustomed with. This deprivation is the major cause of sadness in our lives and the frustration is an additional by-product of it as well. Most people vent their anger and frustration on others around them but fail to realize just how it might appear to the eyes of others. That is because our ability to adapt to new luxuries in life also made us turn a blind eye to the fact that just how unnecessary these things were for us to live a happy and content life in the first place. Others are not in your shoes so they still see the cause of your anger as something too lavish and grand to be actually considered a problem in the first place. So, what should be done when we find ourselves frustrated in life?
Well the first part of the answer is the pretty obvious one which you might have heard before as well, that is, you should try putting yourself in the shoes of others to realize how you appear in the eyes of others. This new perspective is not limited to other people only as you can also try to put yourself in the shoes of yourself from the past, that is, when you did not have this luxury in the first place but were still living your life peacefully. This does not only abates your frustrations but also makes you realize just how grateful you should be for the things that you do have in your life. While this understanding may seem like a pretty simple thing to do, it is an immediate panacea to prevent deterioration in your relations with others around you. Even if the new insight you get is temporary and your feelings might return whenever you are reminded of your distress, I can guarantee that the frustration and anger that you would have otherwise let overcome you, would have also been temporary and left you with nothing but regret.
While it is good to think from the perspective of those that are less fortunate than you to subside the frustration rather than venting it out on innocent friends and family members, it also doesn’t have to mean that you should just give up on the things that you want. It is only natural to want things in life, and that is especially true for the things that you have once experienced already. This is where the second half of the answer comes into play. Just like sharks have to constantly move forward to keep getting oxygen from water around them to breath, your only option is to also keep moving forward. This is true regardless of just how many steps you move forward and what is important is that you do not get stuck in a place. People often have a misunderstanding that they should somehow have a detailed plan to get to the place they want to go and they keep sitting idly whilst waiting for that epiphany. The truth is that you do not need a perfectly well thought out plan to begin your journey but you only need to know a rudimentary version of it. The key is to start making progress and update your plan as new information gets available to you. The bigger the thing that you want to acquire in life, the more complicated the plan might appear to you, and if you try to map out every detail before even starting with any action whatsoever, then it is more likely that you will find yourself overwhelmed rather than motivated to put in the hard work. On the other hand, if you know what you want and you just start out with a small action today in the direction where you believe the desired goal lies, then you will only get amazed at what the consistent effort of even small actions can bring forth with time.
In conclusion, rather than trying to absolve yourself from the anger and frustration of having something taken away from you, you should try to first find peace with your current situation so that you might not fall into a downward spiral and continue to lose more things on your way. This also saves your loved ones around you from such actions and words that will bring nothing but regret in the future. Once you have grown accustomed to the new state of your life, you should immediately begin taking some kind of consistent action to try to get what you want and then avert your focus to that effort rather then to the feelings of distress. Remember that constantly moving forward is the key to your success and although it is simple to say, it is not easy in practical life to adhere to at all. Good luck!
